Ron and Mary both live in the same split-level ranch they bought as newlyweds in 1995. But the problem is that Ron and Mary are not newlyweds anymore — or even married. The couple divorced in 2011 but remain living together as platonic roommates for financial reasons. Ron has been unable [...]
In week six of Children of Divorce and Changing Families’ 8-week program, we do an exercise where we ask each child in the 10-12 year old group to create a set of rules that they wish their parents would follow to ease post divorce stresses.
The rules they write privately are then shared [...]
The new school year is quickly approaching and its time to start preparing. If you and your co-parents both take part in the upbringing of your child than this can be a challenging task. Preparing your child for a new school year requires a lot of coordination and cooperation between you [...]
The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry tells us children of divorce do best when both of their parents continue to be actively involved in their lives. It’s the ongoing connection that makes the positive difference for these children, minimizing the fact that their parents no longer live together.
That’s why [...]
Summer time can be a big adjustment if you have recently been divorced. Trying to work around everyone’s schedule and ensure each parent gets their allotted time with the children can prove to be challenging and stressful. While planning a separate summer vacation from your ex spouse can be difficult, these [...]
1 – Don’t send messages to your ex-spouse through the kids
Your children have been through some major changes- mom and dad not living together, divorce, and now visitation back and forth between the houses. They do not need to be involved in adult discussions or arguments.
2 – Keep contact to a minimum
One phone call a [...]
Working out a schedule to accommodate their children’s summer holidays can be a gruelling task for most divorced parents. Co-parents who can work together to meet the individual needs of their children are much more successful with formulating mutually agreed upon plans.
Here are seven guidelines for making your co-parenting summer holidays [...]
Money is a core concern of any divorce experience. Most people think of money in terms of dollars and cents and making the “right” financial choices. However, money is a much more complex part of our lives and has the power to trigger potent subjective emotions in everyone. Money symbolizes different things to different people [...]
Having a set of summertime house rules was a big help to our family when our boys were young. Everyone knew what to expect, and what was expected of him. Creating your own set of house rules this summer will help you create a more peaceful environment in your home, maintain [...]
Co-parenting starts the day the decision is made to divorce has been made. Even the most amicable divorces need a plan for future co-parenting. Putting your children’s best interests first, no matter how much you may dislike their other parent, is the key to co-parenting.
