Stress Overview: Some stress is good as it can sharpen our awareness and motivate us. But too much stress has a negative impact on our minds and bodies and can cause emotional, relational, and medical problems. Avoid negative ways to reduce stress that may actually cause more harm (i.e. drinking, smoking, over-eating, compulsive shopping, gambling,
by Joyce Marter, LCPC Life is everchanging. Times of transition can exacerbate stress, even if they are positive transitions, like starting a new job, falling in love, or having a child. Life transitions can include changes in: Employment (new job, promotion, job loss, career change) School (starting, ending) Relationship status (starting a new relationship, going
A man I just met with said the more he lives his life, the more uncertain things seem to him… by UB’s Joyce Marter, LCPC: He told me that in his youth he thought the opposite would be true – that as we get older, life would become more defined, solid, clear and certain. Perhaps
What Defines Conflict? The struggle between incompatible impulses, desires or principles. Myths About Conflict Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal. There is only one right way to handle conflict. Good people don’t have disagreements. There is no conflict in healthy relationships. In conflict, somebody always gets hurt. The Truth About Conflict It is a
All couples can benefit from therapy or counseling to reduce stress, conflict, negative interaction, and improve relationship strengths as well as increase intimacy and happiness. It is a common misconception that seeking couples therapy means your relationship has serious problems or is doomed. All relationships have issues and conflict and we have professionals who
As part of human nature, we unconsciously gravitate towards partners who help us rework our issues from our families-of-origin or other earlier life experiences. We all gravitate to what is familiar, which is why so us are reminded of aspects of our parents when we look at our mates. This recreation of old relational and
Most kids get angry right? Some more than others. Anger is not a bad thing, it is an emotion that signals an important message to us that maybe someone has crossed our limits or boundaries. Sometimes we feel upset and hurt in the inside and it comes out as anger on the outside so we
Going through divorce alone certainly doesn’t provide any benefits, and trying to heal in isolation often prolongs the process and can increase depression and anxiety. People can and do handle divorce alone, but just as you wouldn’t undertake a cross-country road trip without GPS, divorce is a journey best undertaken with professional guidance. A divorce
1 – Don’t send messages to your ex-spouse through the kids Your children have been through some major changes- mom and dad not living together, divorce, and now visitation back and forth between the houses. They do not need to be involved in adult discussions or arguments. 2 – Keep contact to a minimum One
