Tips for divorcing without losing your mind.
Everyday you hear about couples who are divorcing. No one is immune. It happens to divorcing celebrity couples like: Ashton Kucher and Demi More or Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger. Divorcing even happens in gay marriages. Look at Rosie O’Donnel who just got engaged to girlfriend Michelle Rounds. She was divorced a couple of times and still found her way back to love. If you are in the unfortunately circumstance that your marriage is coming to an end, here are some tips to help you avoid the drama and divorce more peacefully!
So what are tips for divorcing peacefully so you can move on with your life?
Divorcing Tip 1) Embrace that is it really happening
Accept the reality that it’s different now that you are divorcing. Although you may have had a sweeping romance with your spouse, the truth is that you both are no longer in that place. Making peace and accepting the end makes it easier to start over again.
Divorcing Tip 2) Process the pain.
If you let the pain eat you up inside, you’ll end up a sick, tangled mess of nerves. Cry. Be angry. Exercise. Talk with friends. Write a letter you will never give to your soon to be ex that tells how they disappointed and hurt you. Let it all out. Then burn the letter as a ritual of letting it go. Give yourself the time and space to grieve. In the end, divorcing means moving away from the pain and making room for something healthy, warm, loving, and good back in your life.
Divorcing Tip 3) Own your side of what happened that led to your divorcing situation.
One of the best things divorcing couples can do is reviewing how your actions contributed to the break down of the relationship. If we don’t learn from our mistakes, we are doomed to repeat them. Seek to discover the beliefs you had and actions you took that may have been wrong or hurtful. The best part of mistakes is that it gives you an opportunity to grow and become a healthier stronger person.
Divorcing Tip 4) Release and Relinquish
Let go with peace, ditch the drama. Hurtful revenge filled words and actions should be avoided. The more peacefully divorcing couples can keep communication, the better.
Divorcing Tip 5) Watch divorce costs carefully.
Don’t lose your wallet with a battle in divorce court. One option that is helping many divorcing couples end their marriage more peacefully is divorce mediation. Not only will it save you thousands of dollars on your divorce fees, but it is much less stressful than a traditional divorce. The mediation process helps divorcing couples get the best possible divorce terms. They are led in the divorce mediation process to engage in effective communication to resolve any conflicts. The result is that you get divorced sooner, at less expense, and on better terms so you can begin your new life as a single person.
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