Many assume that women are disadvantaged in mediation. Perhaps they will settle for less than what they want. Or maybe there is a power imbalance between her and her spouse. However, this perception is incorrect. In mediation, the parties will only settle an issue if they are content with its terms. Mediation provides both parties
During a divorce, the silent victims are the children. Even when the split is amicable, children still suffer anxiety and sadness as their lives change. In especially contested cases, the divorce may leave scars on children that linger well into adulthood and shape the way they view relationships. When custody or visitation is contested, the
What are your goals? Do you need help agreeing to the terms of your divorce and getting them finalized (pre-decree mediation), or do you need guidance for disagreements that have occurred after the divorce (post-decree mediation)? Once you understand your goals, make sure that the mediator handles these types of disputes. The mediator should have
I was asked to write this article from the perspective of a non-attorney Divorce Mediator. Divorce mediation, as with a traditional divorce, tries to achieve the same end result, a set of agreements that are equitable and can be lived with by both parties. Where they differ sometimes is that mediation is also about helping
When a couple recognizes that they cannot be together anymore but are not ready yet to give up completely on their marriage, divorce is not their only option. See the rest of the article at – http://safianmediation.com/what-are-the-options-for-a-separating-couple-contemplating-divorce/
he one thing you want to do is early in the process, you want to somewhat not involve the kids overly but not hiding that you’re dating. It’s not necessarily a healthy thing because the kids know anyway. So letting them know that mom deserves to have a life. It’s really healthy role modeling. A
Divorce is a painful time no matter whether you are the one to initiate the process or you are the one who is reluctantly dragged through the process. You and your spouse together have the choice of how to go about ending your marriage and moving into a better space. The following are three ways
You are probably well aware that your sad feelings don’t automatically end once your divorce completes. Many memories still linger. Many experiences need to be over written. It takes time to move through them. While you’re rewriting your experiences, reminders of what you’ve lost can pop up at the most inopportune times. They can be
Equally damaging to a relationship as any other type of infidelity, financial infidelity weds a deep sense of betrayal and deceit with a profound loss of trust. It shakes the foundation of a relationship. Secret purchases on credit cards, borrowing money from a bank account or credit card, stashing money, and incurring debt unbeknownst from
In my last blog post I suggested that sending mediation clients off to separate attorneys was not being helpful. In response to this proposition one reader, an attorney and mediator from California, suggested that I had a low opinion of attorneys. I hope not. I have been a proud member
