During a divorce, the silent victims are the children. Even when the split is amicable, children still suffer anxiety and sadness as their lives change. In especially contested cases, the divorce may leave scars on children that linger well into adulthood and shape the way they view relationships. When custody or visitation is contested, the
I was asked to write this article from the perspective of a non-attorney Divorce Mediator. Divorce mediation, as with a traditional divorce, tries to achieve the same end result, a set of agreements that are equitable and can be lived with by both parties. Where they differ sometimes is that mediation is also about helping
When a couple recognizes that they cannot be together anymore but are not ready yet to give up completely on their marriage, divorce is not their only option. See the rest of the article at – http://safianmediation.com/what-are-the-options-for-a-separating-couple-contemplating-divorce/
he one thing you want to do is early in the process, you want to somewhat not involve the kids overly but not hiding that you’re dating. It’s not necessarily a healthy thing because the kids know anyway. So letting them know that mom deserves to have a life. It’s really healthy role modeling. A
Divorce is a painful time no matter whether you are the one to initiate the process or you are t he one who is reluctantly dragged through the process. You and your spouse together have the choice of how to go about ending your marriage and moving into a better space. The following are three
You are probably well aware that your sad feelings don’t automatically end once your divorce completes. Many memories still linger. Many experiences need to be over written. It takes time to move through them. While you’re rewriting your experiences, reminders of what you’ve lost can pop up at the most inopportune times. They can be
Equally damaging to a relationship as any other type of infidelity, financial infidelity weds a deep sense of betrayal and deceit with a profound loss of trust. It shakes the foundation of a relationship. Secret purchases on credit cards, borrowing money from a bank account or credit card, stashing money, and incurring debt unbeknownst from
In my last blog post I suggested that sending mediation clients off to separate attorneys was not being helpful. In response to this proposition one reader, an attorney and mediator from California, suggested that I had a low opinion of attorneys. I hope not. I have been a proud member
I’ve faced many difficult moments in my life. Who hasn’t? But preparing to tell my son that I will be divorcing his father was absolutely one of the worst. The emotions surging through my body were overwhelming. Deep, gut-wrenching fear. Continuous anxiety. Incredible guilt. And the oppressive weight of shame. My son, after all, was
For children of divorce moving between homes is stressful enough without the transfers themselves being upsetting. There are many ways in which parents can turn simple transfers into real nightmares. If your transfers are unnecessarily stressful following these tips for minimizing your child’s parent-to-parent transfer: General Tips Keep your child’s transfer as brief as possible
