Just as no two divorces are alike, no two divorce proceedings are alike. Most people know someone who has gone through a divorce or has heard about someone else’s experience but going through one yourself is a different experience. Here are four basic guidelines of what you might be able to expect while going through
I am working on a book currently entitled: “Children and Divorce: The Effects of Abandonment and Estrangement: Understanding the Consequences, The Importance of Healing, And a Chance to Reconnect.” While doing my research, I have spoken with many adult children who have shared their stories on how this loss has affected their lives. I’m often
7 big post-divorce money mistakes Keep a level head after a breakup when it comes to spending By Erica Sandberg Breaking up is not only hard to do, it can be brutal on your finances. Legal fees and creating two households from one are just the initial costs of separation. And while some expenditures are
Shania Twain recently published a memoir detailing her anguish at her ex-husband’s affair with her best friend. In the end, Shania found happiness with the friend’s betrayed husband, by her account a straight-arrow guy, a terrific father to his own daughter and a much-admired step-father to her sons. She writes, “What attracted me to Fred
Okay so you are at the point where you have made several attempts to save your marriage, each one of your attempts was unsuccessful…it is time to let go of the marriage and move forward with the divorce. Before you move forward with the divorce though, step back, pause for a second to take a
When the divorce process is just beginning, chances are you and your spouse have not settled the issue of child custody. This is a very difficult time for both you and your spouse, but most importantly, this is very difficult time for the children. Do keep in mind throughout the divorce process that your children
Although it is difficult, divorce needs to be about preparing for the future, not reliving the past. If you and your spouse are on good terms, consider an uncontested divorce or a collaborative divorce. This can be a much less expensive option than ongoing battles through attorneys. Working together to calculate marital assets and joint
Divorce is, by nature, complicated. You’ve spent years building your marriage and entangling your life with the person you’re sitting across the table from. Untangling your assets (and your emotions) takes time too. A family law attorney spends years studying the intricacies of divorce, which explains why divorce is overwhelming to most people. There are
Divorce Counseling: A Tool for a Successful Post-Divorce Life Going through divorce alone certainly doesn’t provide any benefits, and trying to heal in isolation often prolongs the process and can increase depression and anxiety. People can and do handle divorce alone, but just as you wouldn’t undertake a cross-country road trip without GPS, divorce is
The Advantages of Co-Mediation for the Divorce Process Mediation is gaining popularity as a strategy for divorcing couples. Mediation provides the opportunity for resolution of all of the issues required to be decided under the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution Act in a neutral setting, with the assistance of an objective impartial mediator. Once the couple
