When the divorce process is just beginning, chances are you and your spouse have not settled the issue of child custody. This is a very difficult time for both you and your spouse, but most importantly, this is very difficult time for the children. Do keep in mind throughout the divorce process that your children
Although it is difficult, divorce needs to be about preparing for the future, not reliving the past. If you and your spouse are on good terms, consider an uncontested divorce or a collaborative divorce. This can be a much less expensive option than ongoing battles through attorneys. Working together to calculate marital assets and joint
Divorce is, by nature, complicated. You’ve spent years building your marriage and entangling your life with the person you’re sitting across the table from. Untangling your assets (and your emotions) takes time too. A family law attorney spends years studying the intricacies of divorce, which explains why divorce is overwhelming to most people. There are
Divorce Counseling: A Tool for a Successful Post-Divorce Life Going through divorce alone certainly doesn’t provide any benefits, and trying to heal in isolation often prolongs the process and can increase depression and anxiety. People can and do handle divorce alone, but just as you wouldn’t undertake a cross-country road trip without GPS, divorce is
The Advantages of Co-Mediation for the Divorce Process Mediation is gaining popularity as a strategy for divorcing couples. Mediation provides the opportunity for resolution of all of the issues required to be decided under the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution Act in a neutral setting, with the assistance of an objective impartial mediator. Once the couple
Stress Overview: Some stress is good as it can sharpen our awareness and motivate us. But too much stress has a negative impact on our minds and bodies and can cause emotional, relational, and medical problems. Avoid negative ways to reduce stress that may actually cause more harm (i.e. drinking, smoking, over-eating, compulsive shopping, gambling,
by Joyce Marter, LCPC Life is everchanging. Times of transition can exacerbate stress, even if they are positive transitions, like starting a new job, falling in love, or having a child. Life transitions can include changes in: Employment (new job, promotion, job loss, career change) School (starting, ending) Relationship status (starting a new relationship, going
A man I just met with said the more he lives his life, the more uncertain things seem to him… by UB’s Joyce Marter, LCPC: He told me that in his youth he thought the opposite would be true – that as we get older, life would become more defined, solid, clear and certain. Perhaps
What Defines Conflict? The struggle between incompatible impulses, desires or principles. Myths About Conflict Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal. There is only one right way to handle conflict. Good people don’t have disagreements. There is no conflict in healthy relationships. In conflict, somebody always gets hurt. The Truth About Conflict It is a
All couples can benefit from therapy or counseling to reduce stress, conflict, negative interaction, and improve relationship strengths as well as increase intimacy and happiness. It is a common misconception that seeking couples therapy means your relationship has serious problems or is doomed. All relationships have issues and conflict and we have professionals who
